Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Names on my mind


Since first starting the adoption process we have had our future little girl's name firmly chosen . We chose "Mia" because Dan always liked the name "Maria" and when I quickly vetoed it "Mia" seemed like the perfect compromise. Mia also means "mine" in Latin. Silly as it sounds, it starts with an"M" and ends with a "a" like my name. Perfect choice! Or is it?

Three years is a long time to have a name and still be waiting to use it. Lately my mind has been wondering to all the different girl's names that I like. There are so many and unlike the "n" trend we unintentionally used with the boys, most of my girl's names follow the "a" trend. So why would I want to change names at this point? Am I bored with the name "Mia?" Do I need something "new" and "fresh"? Truth be told, this is my one and only chance to choose a name for my daughter and I want to make sure we choose something that we will always love. I don't want to regret her name choice.

On the other hand, the boys refer to her as "Mia", we refer to her as "Mia". Our blog is "Mia makes 6" not "Emma"! I have countless baby items waiting to be used with "her" name on them. I have Christmas ornaments with "her" name on them. What would I do with all this stuff? Would I regret not using our first name choice and end up mourning the name "Mia"?

I can hear a few select people yelling at the computer screen now shouting "are you kidding me, you can't change her name!" Most likely she will remain "Mia" but if I have to wait too much longer my mind could wonder again and "Mia" could end up "Emma".



9 comments:

Jen & Rob said...

I know it! I've sorta had my mind wandering to other names too during this wait, but I think we've settled on Ysabella. Not the 'traditional' spelling, but hey it's a filipino spelling of 'Isabella' We've had that name picked out for at least a year. Thinking of adding maybe my mom's or grandma's name as a middle, then maybe her chinese name. Oh decisions, decisions!
Jenny G.

Jaime said...

When we started out in May 2007, I too had a name in mind Jocelyn. Named after my grandmother. Then towards the end, I started wishing I had kept the trend we did with our other kids and allow her to have a J middle name. So we too doubted our first choice name. In the end, it didn't matter because Jocelyn quickly became Sawyer. LOL . . I think once you see her face you will just know. {{hugs}}

Wendy said...

Abigail was Grace and then Chloe before she was officially Abby; but the wait was 1/2 yours and I hadn't purchased anything with the "official name" on it...Still, once you see her darling face, you will know if she is Mia, or Emma...then you donate the Mia stuff to someone? W.

Melissa said...

I love them all! I had Kate forever picked out but when we finally got her picture, we put our top 5 favorites back into the mix...Kate still won out, she looks like a Kate to us. You will know when you see her!

Thinking about you...I have a feeling your time is almost up chica. Hang in there!

Chris said...

Boo Emma.

Kimberly said...

I love all those choices. When it truly comes time or even when you first meet her you'll know her name and it'll fit her perfectly!

Elizabeth Bergeron said...

Hi and I think second guessing our children's names is a normal part of the wait. I love both choices and did the same with our Emma in China! I knew it was the only chance and I wanted to be sure. She ended up Emma-lia Grace and we did not use any of her Chinese name since she did not respond to any form of it. I do think when we do the readoption we will add a Chinese name so it will be a long name in the end.

Hey, boo to the person who booed Emma!! It's a very feminine name, thank you.

margaretg said...

Well, I've had Makena's name picked out for 12 Years!! Then somedays my mind wanders. I also LOVE the name Ava and having a long name myself the short ones really appeal to me.

Pamela said...

I can totally relate! In the end, you have to go with what feels right at the time... we too, had the same dilemma with the name Anna... we LOVE the name for her and felt like God gave it to us, but when it came close to the time to get her, we started to have 2nd thoughts.... like you, we had many items with her name on it :) But, in the end, we kept the name Anna because we felt it was a name we HAD to name her. Praying the day you meet "Mia" or "Emma" is very soon. By the way, we had the name Emma as our first pick for SOOO long! Love the name!!